Lessons in Love

Tom Cruise in the movie Jerry Maguire set women (and many men) on an impossible trajectory of love. His now famous: ' you complete me' signature line set new benchmarks for the seeking and expression of romantic love. Psychologists have long known that 'no one on earth can complete you!'. Actually the aspirational path to wholeness, calm and joy is a solo journey, with God as your guide.

So how can we sanitize these erroneous beliefs. Well, it starts right in your soul. Start to understand that completeness only exists in your daily walk with God. It's an ever - evolving, dynamic partnership that lasts a lifetime. Once you know that He is your absolute and only source, you can begin to enjoy the benefits of falling in love with your beloved. From this vantage point, you can enjoy discovering a new relationship without an ongoing fear of rejection and abandonment.

So stop looking for someone to complete you. You are complete in God and can love your beloved without anxiety or fear.


  1. Today, understand that no one can complete you. You can simply rest in the love of your Heavenly Father.

Written by Dr Rani Samuel
Clinical Psychologist